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Making a commitment to myself.
Or Walking my Path |
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Joey has had the opportunity to test her ability to receive some strong judgement from a close friend. She has processed the judgement in a way that has served her very well and she has grown from the experience. |
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Emotions (Sustained) |
Sometimes screaming, shouting, smoking, drinking.
Communicating with others openly.
Engaging in some physical activity like riding a bike or walking.
Giving my feelings physical, verbal, written and artistic expression through painting.
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Courage. Trust. Self love. Spiritual awareness. Acceptance. |
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Emotions (Transitory) |
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Confusion (which comes with resistance). Blankness. Frustration. Anger. Joy. Sadness. Grief. Guilt. |
| Test for values and beliefs |
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Strategy A (test for beliefs & values satisified) |
I have the sense of a strong ball in my heart and a sense of the ball being quite still.
I have an expanded awareness that comes from a feeling of love.
I have a combination of sadness and joy.
There is an energy that connects my solar plexus to my heart and my throat.
I have butterflies.
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Find an expression for my feelings. Talking, writing.
I consciously ask myself "how am I feeling" and I will find a verbal description for the feeling. |
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Strategy B (test not quite satisified) |
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Acknowledge the feeling and put a "not knowing" label on it.
Focus on something else.
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Strategy C (test not at all satisified) |
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| Enabling beliefs and values |
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Not struggling.
Having courage.
Using my intuition.
Trusting my initial feelings. Recognising that I feel fearful. Willingness to confront fears.
Ability to communicate.
Listening from place of selflessness.
Holding an open mind.
Willingness to hear the truth.
Taking the space and time to let information come into the heart, feeling the feelings and acknowledging them. |
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Beliefs & Values About The Ability |
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| Beliefs and values about the ability |
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Definition of beliefs and values |
Acceptance of my feelings regardless of any judgement about them.
Not taking on judgement of other people.
Acknowledging and accepting the sponsorship of others. |
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Recognising how I am feeling emotionally.
Not having judgement about being angry.
Letting go of the judgements of others.
Acknowledging feelings and letting go. Holding on to possibilities. Dissociating from the other person.
Being witnessed by others and being in a truthful place with others.
Being in a place of choosing to share.
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| Core beliefs and values |
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Supporting beliefs |
I feel the need to find the truth of the situation.
People should be accepted for who they are.
It is a gift to see the light in others and in oneself.
Having non-judgement.
Owning something for oneself.
Claiming my life. Being in my power.
Being witnessed by God and by others from a place of sponsorship. |
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If I am true to myself I cannot be false to others.
When I chunk up I can get a spiritual understanding.
I trust I am being guided.
If I resist change I cannot move through change. |
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| Additional Comments |
There is a temporal aspect to the way that Joey processes the judgement of other people which is determined by her perception of what their intention is in offering the judgement.
If Joey perceives that the intentions of the other person are genuinely caring and in her best interests she may take the judgement on board and act on it quickly if that is appropriate.
If she perceives the intention of the other person as being anything other than caring then she will hold the judgement as information to be considered at a later date.
Additional Beliefs
Knowing that the other person has their own "stuff". I have self respect by trusting and sharing with someone else and I let go of a sense of pride. |
