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| Ability |
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Context |
| Being passionate about helping people. |
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Coaching. |
| External Behaviour |
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Emotions (Sustained) |
I am listening intently.
I sit up straight.
I am sitting forward.
I relax.
I ask the client questions.
I ask myself questions.
I work on my business - I think then put thoughts into action.
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Excitment.
Gratitude.
Appreciation.
Feeling blessed.
Feeling lucky.
Caring deeply.
Eagerness.
Delight. |
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Emotions (Transitory) |
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Frustration
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| Test for values and beliefs |
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Strategy A (test for beliefs & values satisified) |
I have energy in my voice.
I am in a state of rediness.
I am paying exquisite attention.
The client must feel I am being helpful to them - there must be some evidence, verbal or non-verbal of a lift.
I notice the depth and importance of what is happening.
I notice the details of what I am enjoying.
I feel filled up inside - in my upper body. The energy feels very forward.
I am bored if I can't make progress.
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I see them in front of me.
I keep my visiual field fairly narrow unless I need to get creative.
I am really listening intently to what they are saying - I am looking for a nuance. I am listening for something that they have done that's new or different - anything that is a forward movement or a stretch. I ask them "how is this important to you?"
I ask myself the question: "Is there a deeper meaning here?" If there is I stop and check it out with them.
I design the "big picture" first then extrapolate the details.
I am seeing the big picture of where we are going. I am asking myself "are we moving towards the big picture".
I am looking for "deeper meaning" - it has a location (lower left).
I say to myself - "There is meaning to what just happened let me point that meaning out". I ask a question so that it deepens the meaning even more.
I am looking for evidence to reinforce what I enjoy. |
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Strategy B (test not quite satisified) |
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I am periodically checking that I am paying attention.
I notice I am thinking of other things - that's my cue "I need to pay attention".
I check my posture - my body position - I will pick up a pencil, sit forward and check my breathing.
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Strategy C (test not at all satisified) |
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I realise I am "useless". I ask them an open ended question - "what can I do that would be most helpful to you right now?"
I turn it over to them. |
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Strategy D (test cannot be satisfied) |
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I rarely let it continue.
(Not client related) I look for things in my life that are stealing the energy and get rid of them. |
| Enabling beliefs and values |
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Coaching is a mechanism for helping people.
I have to be flexible.
If you are looking for something you tend to find it.
When I am experiencing being passionate I am also experiencing being satisfied.
I am able to listen to them and help them move forword.
I need to be having a good time.
What's important is people feeling good about themselves and what they are doing.
I appreciate what I do well - I use this to build myself. |
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Beliefs & Values About The Ability |
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| Beliefs and values about the ability |
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Definition of beliefs and values |
I like being appreciative - I love giving people appreciation.
I want to be helpful.
I love what I do.
I love helping people - it's important people are getting what is helpful to them. |
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Being appreciative.
It is feeling blessed and lucky and at the same time really noticing the quality of their experience.
Noticing what other people do that is special, doing it often - doing it in different ways and being excited about it.
If I find myself not enjoying my life then I decide to do something about it. I will look for something to put my attention on and appreciate it.
It's as though I have made a decision I am going to enjoy my life.
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| Core beliefs and values |
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Supporting beliefs |
My whole life is about loving and being loved and really thoroughly enjoying it.
I am not willing to live without passion in my life (I become passionate about finding passion). |
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Movement - forward or backwards - is important - I don't know what it means so I will ask them.
My gratitude increases as I grow older. |
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| Additional Comments |
I am not so appreciative of inanimate objects.
People get lost in their own internal dialogue and they miss things.
I can be really judgemental - and I don't like the feeling.
How do you find what to be passinate about? "Developing, exploring, reading, really searching for something to immerse myself in. It will be there - I just need to keep searching - I feel satified enjoying the process."
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